I have so many mixed feelings about “the holidays,” and for me, that means Christmas in particular. Feelings about the commercialism, forced gaiety at office parties, over-the-top house decorations, as well as good old fashioned downtime with family, an opportunity to rest and take stock before the New Year. Expectations that this is the one time of year that people should be kind and generous because it’s the “Christmas spirit.” The hype. The giving and the getting. Joy. Obl