I was talking to a friend about stress management tools and workshops, and she said, “Those are great, but what if the circumstances never change? What if we don’t change the thing causing the stress?” It’s a good question. It’s common to think that we must change our outside circumstances in order to feel differently inside; to be happy, satisfied, and at peace. I always believe that if I were in Bali or Tahiti, I’d be happy all of the time. But wherever I go, there I am. Wi

Oh, the irony. Last week I wrote about comparing your insides to someone else’s outsides and how dangerous it is to compare ourselves in that way. It's often referred to as "compare and despair" because it usually doesn't make us feel good. Well. Sure enough, I was reminded of my own advice. Again. This morning I was in a meeting I wasn’t sure I really wanted to be. It’s a group of women I admire and respect, and therefore, I want them to like me and respect me back. So OF CO

Is 2020 going to be the year that broke you, or is it going to be the year you broke through? It’s kind of a trick question because, I believe, before every breakthrough is a breakdown. So if you’re in the middle of a breakdown, that’s good news. A breakthrough may be around the corner. It’s a choice, even if it doesn't feel like one. When we’re in the middle of a breakdown, we feel like we don’t have any choices. All we can see are walls blocking what we want and what we thi